How positive change creates happiness
I have created change. It’s how I grow and create the life I want to live. Here’s what happened…
Since last year I’ve been planning, creating and launching my coaching & events. I know it’s something I feel called to do and the way I will be of service to other people in the world. But what I first created is not necessarily what I want. And I feel fabulously excited and giddy that I haven’t got it right yet!
It means I still have the chance to create what I want. I can still change things up and move forward!
I have been out delivering my offer in the real world with real people. I have given myself the chance to feel it, smell it, touch it and hear it. I tried it all on for size and found that in some places it just didn’t fit. I also worked out how it fits into my own pace and rhythm with a wonderful home life and a job I’m totally in love with.
This is my life after all and I can make it whatever I want!
There is real power in realising that we are all responsible for our own freedom - I write and talk about this often. Realising I am the Captain of my own ship means I can take things as fast or slow as I like, I can make them as big or small as I want and whatever shape suits me best.
What it doesn’t mean is that I never make anything happen, or change my ideas so much I never complete them. In fact, you have to complete your ideas in order to iterate on them. You have to complete things to know what did and didn’t work for you, what to build on and what to let go of.
Activating something, making it real, is the only way to iterate it, develop it and move it forwards.
I have really thought and felt my way through all this in the last 6 weeks or so and I’ve used two questions to help me re-focus:
What lights me up?
What do I have that will be of service to others?
I subscribe to Jen Carrington’s letters, and, along with my wonderful life coach Nicola Newman, and my own experience, I have come to realise that these two questions will unlock everything. Both of these women write and coach along these lines and hearing them say ‘it’s OK’ has made a huge difference to me. So I’m going to say the same to you - it’s OK!!
Not getting it quite right the first time is natural. We take that and iterate, then iterate some more and in fact never stop iterating, reinventing, developing, growing and creating. Isn’t that just fabulous? Isn’t that exciting?
So what happens when life changes around you?
I am creative before I am reactive.
This mantra has changed my life. My friend Nic Devlin said this in an online summit (she says it came from another source but I heard it from her so I’m attributing it here). I created a whole Pecha Kucha on this very topic (listen to the recording here, it’s super short).
How can I step back and think ‘what do I want to create here’? Instead of simply reacting to what life throws at me? It’s an amazing question to keep coming back to. It works really well when you think life is changing without you, that things are outside of your control or happening to you.
It makes you think what do I really want out of this situation? What’s my end goal? What’s the big picture here? Even in the worst moments you can still create the experience that you want. Nic tells a very moving story around her mum’s illness and how they chose the very best path through it for her. If you ever needed a big real life example then that’s it.
So now I know what I want my next iteration to be, I’m recreating where I want to go. And I’ll do it again…and again…and again.
My 3 top ways to create positive change
Be responsible for what you want and take action to make it happen
Get to know what you love and what joy you can create in the world - let that be your guide
Find a mantra/philosophy/saying that resonates with you and works for both created situations and those that seem to happen to you - like ‘I am creative before I am reactive’. Come back to it all the time, live it.
I’m excited to see the changes you are going to create!
I’ve updated my website in line with my desires to come back to creative living, to creativity itself, to collaboration, and I’m open minded now to see where this all takes me. Thanks for your support guys and I hope you are inspired by my writings!